Private Investigator - Infidelity - Internationally Bestselling Author of 'Infidelity - exploding the myths' & 'Suddenly Single'
It is in the field of Infidelity that Julia's unique style, empathy and common sense approach, together with a clear, focused and objective appraisal of the facts has led thousands of clients to use her services.
Infidelity Investigations
Trust is like virginity. You only lose it once
When I wrote Infidelity - exploding the myths it was for women and men worldwide. I wanted it to be a calm voice of reason for those caught in the grip of despair when Infidelity strikes. For me the first paragraph says it all and was reason enough to write the book:
"It doesn't matter how rich, beautiful, powerful, successful or intelligent you are - infidelity doesnt care. Infidelity doesn't discriminate. Infidelity couldn't care less where you live, what you drive, what career path you've chosen, what religion you practise, what your ethnic background is, what gender you are, what your sexual preference is or what political affiliations you have. It can strike at any time with a force so powerful that it renders you incapable of functioning on all cylinders. It contaminates your waking thoughts and makes sleep impossible. in fact experts tell us that to live with such stress levels for a prolonged period can seriously reduce our life expectancy by 10-14 years".
My expertise comes from not only what I see and hear everyday but from my own personal experience. So therefore I cannot stress enough that when you notice those out of character changes, when you experience that niggling feeling (intuition) that wont go away, when you have confronted your partner who flatly denies everything, when you have been told that your becoming paranoid and insecure or when your made to feel it's all your fault, don’t delay any further your intuition is rarely wrong.
In fact in all my experience I have never had a client be wrong yet. At this point it is important to keep a log of anything that appears out of the ordinary. Perhaps the mobile phone is turned off at lunchtime or they need to keep the phone with them at all times and only answer or make calls when they are away from you.
Another very important tell tale sign is your sex life or lack of. It is interesting to note that men more so than women can keep the sex going at home whilst in the midst of an affair. If you do however find that your husband does lose interest at home this is a time for concern because this usually means the affair has moved from just sexual to emotional.
In long term marriages the desire by your partner to try sexual positions that have never been tried before also brings to your attention that they have either seen or experienced this recently. The biggest misconception people have about extra marital relationships is that they often say to me "I don’t think it’s sexual yet they’re probably just having a coffee or lunch". My experience is that by the time a client has phoned me they have gone through a process in their mind. That process has taken time and the reason they are talking with me is because they already know it’s sexual but cannot admit it to themselves.
The important thing to remember is that people having affairs do not go public with their affections but always look for privacy. Finally, if you are going through a betrayal you are probably feeling that your whole world is consumed with pain and there is no way out. Let me tell you there is. First you need to find out the truth because knowledge will give you back the power and believe me you will come out the other end a much richer and wiser person.
Read my internationally bestselling book: 'Infidelity - exploding the myths'.
Consultations by appointment:
Julia is available for consultations from her East Auckland based office. This service will provide clients with a confidential and private environment in which to discuss their requirements and ways to move forward. Parking is available nearby.
Julia will be available on Tuesdays & Thursdays from 10.00AM to 3.00PM and the cost is $250.00 plus GST per hour - Bookings are essential and payment is required either prior to the consultation or on the day.
To book your Consultation telephone:
Office: (09) 536 5500
Mobile: 0274 882 802
With much of Julia's work being of a personal nature, she is well aware of the need to be a sympathetic sounding board. Empathy is a key component and consultations are carried out with Care and Confidentiality.
Contact me if you would like to learn more about the Private Investigation services or order my book Infidelity - exploding the myths...Julia Hartley Moore